Testimonies of former students at Hephzibah House
I am writing on behalf of Hephzibah House. I went to
Hephzibah House and was there for about three and a half
years. I was sent to the girls home because my family
situation was not very good. My parents were good people,
but they knew they did not have what it took for me to be
raised in the Godly home that they wanted for my life. So
they talked to my pastor about Hephzibah House. They had
heard only good things about the place and knew that I
could be given what they so desired for me to have– a
loving and stable home.
Upon arriving at Hephzibah House, I was nervous, scared,
and excited all at the same time. When my dad and I pulled
up, several people came out and helped us unload all the
luggage. Then my dad was given a tour of the place and
talked to the Director for a little while, and then we said
our good-byes and he left. I was then introduced to all the
girls, and the staff ladies, and later was helped on
starting my school work.
I loved everything about the place. It had a big open yard
where we could play volley ball and kick ball, or just sit
out there on Sundays on these huge bean bags and write
letters to our parents. The staff was so kind! They were
always there to help you through any problem you had. You
learned to trust the Godly counsel that they offered you.
What I liked most about Hephzibah House was that they
became family to me. I can remember going to sleep at night
thanking God for how good he was to me. He had given me a
second “family” and another place to call home! The good
thing about the girl’s home was that no one was singled out
and treated above anyone else! Those whose parents had
money were not given extra privileges than those who did
not have money. I would know because I was one of the girls
without money. Everyone was treated with such kindness and
love. This is not to say that there were no rules or
guidelines in the home, but with them came the
understanding of why we needed to obey rules. It would make
us better people. It would help us later in life when we
would work jobs. And if anything, it would just give us
character!
I was fifteen years old when I went there. Of course I did
not comprehend some of the rules that were given. No one at
that age even thinks they need rules! I needed to obey them
anyway. We were never beaten into submission. I was never
hit or abused in any way, or saw anyone else being abused.
They never forced anything upon us, not even their
religion. They were Christians through and through and we
all knew that, but it was never forced upon us. But after
seeing the daily peace and joy that they had, I knew I
wanted the same thing in my life. Their main goal was to
teach us to be respectable human beings and to have
character to get through the hard times in life. I felt
like they were always preparing me for something that I
would need later on in life. They taught us not to be lazy,
to get up early, to work hard and have fun in it, and to
just enjoy living! So many teenagers these days talk about
how they want to commit suicide. We never had thoughts like
that. We were excited for a new day because we never knew
what it held. It could be a day out for pizza, or working
in the garden, or a fun filled day washing cars and
spraying water on each other. They pushed us to be more
than we ever thought we could be. We pretty much had
everything available at our fingertips. I taught myself to
play the piano because they had three of them there. I fell
in love with the guitar because one of the staff let me
play on hers, and now I have my own guitar and can play it
well. They sacrificed so much to try and meet our needs. We
were truly loved; truly cared for.
In closing I would like to say that I would not trade my
experience at Hephzibah House for the world! I can remember
crying when it was time for me to go home. I was going to
miss the girls home so much! It was a safe haven. I learned
so many great things during my stay and also received an
added plus... I accepted the God who made them the loving
and caring people that they were! I now have the same joy
and peace that they displayed every day to each one of us
girls. I can honestly say that Hephzibah House was the best
thing that ever happened to me!!
I am
writing on behalf of the Hephzibah House ministry. I was
brought to the school at 16 years of age.
When I entered their doors, I was experiencing deep
problems and severe emotional pain. I was incredibly
unstable and unable to control my emotions.
Over the two and a half year time span, I truly believe I
received a wealth of help. I was given practical tools in
helping me to gain control of my emotions. I was taught a
strong work ethic and time management skills. During the
time I was there, I earned a college preparatory diploma
and took many college classes as well. When I left
Hephzibah House, I was no longer a scared, unstable,
frightened little girl. Instead I was a strong, confident
hard working young woman.
As I write this letter, I am nearing my
40th
birthday.
I have a bachelors degree in education and a business
degree as well. For 17 years, I have been married and my
husband and I have three children. Although I grew up
around alcoholism, alcohol has no part in my life today
whatsoever. I truly attribute this great success to the
tools so diligently instilled in me as a teenager at
Hephzibah House.
Never in the two and a half year time span did I ever
witness or experience any sort of abuse whatsoever. I was
well-cared for and well-provided for. From everything I
could see or hear, my fellow students were given the same
fine care.
I am writing this today both to commend this ministry and
also to shed some light on the positive impact they have
made on my life and those lives I now touch. I will never
be the same for having known them and for having been under
their care.
I was a
student at Hephzibah House for 15 months. During my stay at
Hephzibah House, there was never any mistreatment or abuse.
We were always well fed, on a balanced diet, and all of our
needs were met. The staff always treated us with respect
and kindness. There were many times that we would have
birthday parties and field days. There was always a
structure, but there was always fun as well.
I am now the wife of a Pastor and we have recommended your
ministry to others. If there was anything questionable
about Hephzibah, we would have never made that
recommendation.
Hephzibah House was there when my family had nowhere else
to turn. It is scary for me to think what my life would be
like today had Hephzibah not been there when I needed it. I
am appreciative of and thankful for the staff and ministry
of Hephzibah House.
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Many years have passed since, as a 16 year old “troubled
teen”, my father brought me to Hephzibah House, after I had
run away from home.
My mother got very sick with cancer and relatives helped
watch us. My mother did not get any better, but passed
away; I was nine at the time. At this time some of my
siblings and I went to live with my father and my step-mom.
Because of all these circumstances I didn’t even take care
of myself, bathe right or wear clean and neat clothes. I
was also very withdrawn and behind in school. I had
developed bad character, lied to and stole from my friends
and acquaintances. I did go to church at this time, but
only knew about God and did not know Him in a personal way.
So my behavior was still the same and I even stole from the
Pastor and the church. I was very selfish and didn’t care
who I hurt. I did have a set of good church friends that
helped me, but I also had bad friends. I was very bitter
and hateful toward my parents at this time. They were
trying to raise me to do right and be a responsible person,
but I didn’t listen. I went out with these bad friends and
ended up running away from home for about a week. When I
got back home, my neighbors recommended Hephzibah House to
my parents, so we packed up my things and my father drove
me there.
While at Hephzibah House, I received loving and patient
care and training in the Bible. I realized then how much
God loves me and cares for me. I realized I needed a
personal relationship with Him, and I repented of my sins
and asked Him to be my personal Saviour. The staff taught
me to love and obey my parents, they did not try to steal
our hearts away to follow Hephzibah House standards, but to
point us in the right direction. They helped us to be
responsible, good and respectful citizens. I was also able
to graduate from high school by the next year.
As I applied the principles they taught me from the Bible,
my life began to change. Instead of bitterness and hate and
stealing, God helped me, (as it says in Romans 13:10, “Love
worketh no ill to his neighbor”) to love and forgive.
Instead of having emotional tantrums because I was not
stable and could not handle anything without getting all
upset, stability came as I realized God put everything in
my life for a purpose and would help me through it. All the
training I received at Hephzibah House only helped me and
changed my life for the better.
I praise God for His protection on my life and for bringing
me to Hephzibah House. I know if I would have kept on
running with those bad friends, I would have ended up
pregnant, on drugs, and breaking the law. My life was
headed for destruction.
I THANK GOD THAT HEPHZIBAH HOUSE WAS THERE FOR ME.
Psalm 40: 2-3
He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out of the
miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my
goings. And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise
unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust
in the LORD.
My pit was full of this world and all of its wickedness.
All throughout my life I had been raised in a Christian
home and regularly attending church. I even made a
profession of faith many times but yet there had been no
change in my life.
In my teen years I began rebelling and did things that I
never thought I would do. My parents often tell me that
while I was rebelling they looked into my eyes and it
looked like I was dying inside and there was a small
flicker left. They knew that there had to be a change in my
life. They knew that God had to change my life around and
not this world or man.
Then I arrived at H.H. As most girls, I struggled greatly
and purposed in my heart that I would not change but just
conform until my time was up. Well praise the Lord that He
had different plans for my life than I did. After a few
days God began to soften my heart and I began to conform to
their ways. Conformance wouldn’t save me though and one
night I saw my need for a Savior. We were watching a sermon
tape, and I remember the preacher preaching on hell on how
many rejected Him and regretted it. Inside I was uneasy and
began to realize that I really wasn’t saved. I decided that
I needed to do something about it and on that night Christ
came into my heart.
After salvation everything changed. I began to have a
thirst for the Word of God and His ways. My thinking
process changed and I realized that I couldn’t do the
things I used to because I was a “new creature in Christ.”
I even began hating the things I used to enjoy, something I
thought would never happen.
I am very thankful for H.H for many things but one is
because they helped lead me in the right path. There was
always counseling and there was always something to learn
from God’s Word. Scripture always backed up whatever they
did or taught us. I think that is why I am so appreciative
of them because I could always go to God’s Word and see for
myself why they do what they did and if I didn’t understand
something they would always be willing to show me.
I am also very thankful for them because they taught me how
to be a charactered young lady. Once again they showed me
from Scripture how it was that God expected a young lady to
act and portray herself. There was always continual
teaching and guidance on this issue of which I am very
grateful for.
I not only learned about the Christian life and character
but I also learned how to rebuild relationships. As most
rebellious teens my relationship with my parents wasn’t the
greatest. But by work, forgiveness and love we were able to
rebuild and have a happy family. It was a true joy being
able to rebuild and have a closer relationship with my
parents.
Lastly I am truly thankful that H.H was there for me and
for many other girls. If I hadn’t of went to H.H my life
would of went down a worse road then it had and I am
thankful that He was able to soften my heart and show me my
need. I am thankful that He gave me a sheltered environment
in which I could grow. Of coarse after one leaves and deals
with this wicked world one could only wish they would of
done more to develop a deeper relationship with Him.
I was at H.H for over two years. Truly God has brought me
up out of my horrible pit of sin and wickedness. He gave me
His Spirit for my foundation and gave me His Word to guide
me along the way. His Spirit also gave me my song and
praise for His wonderful works. Now I pray that my
testimony will be a light and that, “many shall see it and
fear and shall trust in the Lord.”
Thank
You Hephzibah House for all that you did
I am a
former student of Hephzibah House. I was sent there at the
age of 16. My parents brought me to Hephzibah House because
of my rebellion towards them and the trouble I was getting
into with my friends and at school. They felt like they had
lost control of me, but cared enough for me to seek help.
When I was brought to Hephzibah House, I was very resentful
towards my parents and my authority. I was unhappy to be
taken away from my surroundings. However, it did not take
long for me to realize the Williams family and staff loved
and cared for me and desired to help me to do right and to
rebuild my relationship with my family and God. Through
preaching, Bible reading and Godly counsel I realized how
awful I had been to my family and those who really cared
for me. At Hephzibah House, the busy schedule of church,
work and school was exactly what I needed to get my mind
off of my friends and on to thinking of others. Through all
of this busy schedule I was always treated with fairness
and respect. I was never subject to any kind of physical or
mental abuse. The overall atmosphere of Hephzibah House was
very uplifting and pleasant.
I can look back and know the Williams family and Hephzibah
House staff always had the utmost love in their hearts for
me and all the girls, although they had to be strict and
firm with the rules that were in place.
In conclusion, I will always be thankful to the whole
Hephzibah House ministry for giving me a second chance and
helping me see my need of a Saviour and a new direction in
my life. They cared enough for me and the other girls to
give their whole life to such Godly, self-sacrificing
ministry. The memories I have of Hephzibah House consist of
how the Lord got a hold of my heart through a family and
ministry that has been greatly used to help girls across
the country like me. When I came back home, it was a
wonderful reunion with my family and church. A year later,
the Lord gave me a wonderful husband and now I have four
children. I can truly say I would not have had such a
wonderful life serving the Lord with my husband if it were
not for Hephzibah House. The people there will always have
such a special place in my heart.
I am writing
this message on behalf of Hephzibah House located in Winona
Lake, IN. I was a former student at the facility. I am
currently married and have one child.
The function of
Hephzibah House was a healing one. By no means can an
individual be repaired--both physically and mentally--in a
time period as short as fifteen months. What Hephzibah
House did do was teach us how to be better
individuals--being able to make appropriate decisions in
the midst of life's challenges and stressors. In my
clinical opinion, some of the reported circumstances have
been glamorized. The rules and regulations were set in
place to protect us and other fellow students. Hephzibah
House did no more than an inpatient juvenile psychiatric
facility would do for their clients. Unlike a psychiatric
facility, the environment at Hephzibah was a Christian one
and those caring for the girls did so with little pay or
reward. I highly commend the Williams (and staff) for
selflessly giving of their time, energy, and resources to
help girls change and lead productive lives.
I am very grateful to have had a place that was willing to
help both my parents and I at a very crucial time in my
adolescence. I have since told Dr. Williams that I believe
that my stay there was a turning point in my life. I give
much credit to that ministry for contributing to who I am
today. The truth of the matter is that the Williams loved
each of the girls like their own and clearly remember each
one--which is amazing. I look at the Williams as my second
family and have kept in contact with them over the years.
If the Williams (and staff) were so abusive and the
accommodations so terrible, I don't think that I would have
had much to do with them today.
For whoever may
be reading this message, please understand that the
Williams (and staff) are missionaries who have given so
much for a worthy cause. They have received little
compensation for their time and efforts.
I came
to Hephzibah House when I was 16, and stayed until I
graduated from high school, three months after my
18th
birthday.
During my stay, I was treated with care and kindness. I was
never mistreated in any way, nor did I observe the
mistreatment of any other student. All students were well
fed, received adequate sleep, and lived in comfortable
rooms. We continued our education through the ministry
school and received Biblical training through regular Bible
study and church services.
After attending Hephzibah House, I went to one year of
college, met my husband and got married. I now have 4
wonderful children and am working to finish my degree in
elementary education. My family and I attend church
regularly, and we are very involved in our church’s
ministries.
Hephzibah House has meant a lot to me. The staff gave of
their time to help me get through a very rough time in my
life. I know that if I had not attended Hephzibah House, I
would not be living the happy life that I now live. I am
very glad for the ministry and staff, and I feel privileged
to have been there. I learned many life lessons that have
helped me make good decisions as an adult, and I look back
at my stay with fond memories.
I
attended and resided at Hephzibah House in Winona Lake,
Indiana, and during my three and a half year stay I was
never abused physically, mentally, or in any other way. I
neither saw, knew of, was a part to, or believe that any
other students were subjected to any abuse or mistreatment.
I was taught many things at Hephzibah House, mainly about
the Bible and how to live a Christian life. We also learned
things such as cooking and food preparation, gardening,
sewing, crocheting, cleaning, and many other valuable
skills that have changed and enhanced my life, and now my
job as a wife and mother.
For me, Hephzibah House was a loving family with boundaries
that taught me how to repair my relationship with my own
family (while I was there and even now- more than a decade
later).
I found
security and safety in placing myself under the Williams’
care. I stayed at Hephzibah House for three and a half
years even past the age of 18 by my own choice.
Pastor Williams and family were always kind to the
students. I never heard Pastor Ron Williams raise his
voice. I always respected his knowledge and wisdom as a man
of God. After taking long trips to churches and being on
the road for days on end, he would always take time to
counsel with the students in between tips. He would teach
us from God’s Word.
I always admired the Williams family, the close-knit large
family they have is a heart-warming testimony. We live in a
day when the marriage covenant is easily broken and a
description of what constitutes a “family” cannot even be
agreed upon.
People are ruled by their emotions. When someone who has an
authority problem feels that they have been wronged, they
will stop at nothing to get their way. Psychologists and
pop-culture have taught us not to take responsibility for
our actions. For a fee, anyone can go to a doctor or
psychologist and get a diagnosis on which to blame a lack
of character. In my experience being lied to is
commonplace. Many grossly exaggerate circumstances in order
to prove a point or get what they want. No one has to be
taught how to lie. Disgruntled people, who have never
learned to bring themselves under authority, will try to
get others on their side by lying and complaining to them.
People love to complain about their jobs, spouses, house,
car, etc..
We live in a day and age when people look out for #1,
themselves. People don’t do things for one another unless
there is something in it for them, fame, recognition,
attention, money, etc.. A consequence for breaking a rule
at Hephzibah House was a demerit. I was never physically
harmed or felt threatened that I would be.
The Williams family is one of the most giving families I’ve
known. It’s been several years now since I moved on.
Looking back, I remember all the good times I had there. I
remember campfires, games, lots of music, volleyball, snow
forts, birthday parties, Friday night fun times,
encouragement from the Williams’, the academic and
Spiritual focus from school and church. I thrived in that
environment; the Williams family spent a lot of time with
us. They would spend there holidays with us; we would be
made special meals. One of the Williams’ daughters spent
hours decorating and making the home lovely and cozy for
us. I enjoyed being a part of a ministry that would send
Scriptures to many foreign countries.
The Williams family helped me Spiritually and emotionally.
I learned how to work hard, which has helped me be
successful in anything I’ve determined to do. I have a
testimony wherever I go of being a hard worker. I attribute
that to my time at Hephzibah House.
After graduating from college, I learned that the Williams’
had secretly been sending in an amount of money to my
college every month. They had already done so much for me,
and still they continued to help me by applying money to my
school bill. Pastor and Mrs. Don Williams came from out of
state to my college graduation. That was one of the kindest
acts a non-family member has done for me. This act meant so
such to me; they were willing to stand by my side showing
how proud they were of me. I’m very happy to know the
Williams family and thank God for people who still remain
faithful to God despite those who oppose them and the God
they serve.
As an example of their gracious care, I remember a time
when a new student was throwing a temper tantrum like a
two-year-old. I witnessed her screaming and losing control
of herself; Pastor Williams spoke calmly and gently to her.
There was never once any physical contact. Again, I was
overwhelmed by how loving they were. I’m not the only girl
that the Williams’ have helped in this way, but I can only
speak for myself.
The
following are my experiences and views of Hephzibah House
during my enrollment there. My intent in writing this is
that it might be a testimony of my stay at Hephzibah House.
Upon my arrival, I was treated with utmost care and gentle
words by all the staff and staff families. When I first
walked through the doors I was totally unaware that
boarding schools still existed and was in total shock when
I found out that my parents intended to enroll me there for
15 months. The staff ladies knew of the complete shock I
was going through and their compassion and encouraging
smiles were a big help to me at that time.
I was used to spending a lot of time by myself at home and
suddenly being surrounded by a bunch of girls was quite an
adjustment for me. Here again the staff showed
understanding by not requiring me at first to be involved
in all the activities.
As any organization of this sort must have rules, Hephzibah
House also has a set. Yet I was given a grace period in
learning those, and was not held accountable for my
beginning, unintentional errors.
The staff took into consideration the varying appetites of
different girls. I never had a large appetite, and was
allowed to stay on smaller portions. On the other hand the
girls who required or desired more were allowed extra,
above the regular portions dished out.
The food served had variety and was a well balanced diet.
We were served healthy foods as well as being offered
sweets that American teenagers love so well.
Schedule is a definite help and security for struggling
children and teens. The Hephzibah House staff must have
realized this as we were kept on a consistent schedule. It
was designed in a way to fit our needs, yet not cause over
exhaustion.
Part of the schedule also included many fun activities such
as volleyball, kick ball. Ping-Pong, table games, movies,
skits, singing around the fire and so forth. Holidays and
birthdays were also special occasions. They were celebrated
in such a way as to divert the girls’ attention from
homesick feelings that threatened to surface at such times.
Evenings of free time were also granted to us in which we
could choose our own activities within certain guidelines.
I appreciated their confidentiality of medical issues among
the students. I’m sure it was difficult in close proximity
like that to maintain the privacy that they did.
We were also provided with private dressing rooms and
showers- a luxury many public school students don’t even
have.
During my 15 month stay there, I was never once treated or
touched inappropriately or roughly. I also never saw any of
my fellow students physically abused in any way.
A big effort was made by the staff to show equality among
the students. I know this must have been very difficult as
some of the students had incredibly rotten attitudes at
times. Yes, when a student proved to be trustworthy, they
were given more privileges. However, this was kept in
balance, and prejudice was not an issue.
There is an incident I clearly remember in which I made a
careless mistake and something was wasted because of it. I
am so thankful that the staff must have detected my more
sensitive nature, and one of the head staff ladies came to
me quietly to tell me how it would be all straightened out.
Love springs from my heart for that lady when I think of
how she very graciously dealt with me and the situation.
Over all, I believe the staff did a remarkable job in
dealing with rebel teenage girls. I am amazed at the clever
incentives they came up with to encourage the girls to do
right and to abide by the rules. A big one for me was not
wanting to wear my school uniform to church services. Other
incentives included no desserts, no extra activities, and
no talking to fellow students, until the assigned sentences
were completed. I remember the first time I exceeded the
number of demerits, and was assigned my sentences to write.
I was told in a quiet manner, as they knew it was a
difficult, yet necessary thing to keep order among the
students.
After my experience at Hephzibah House as a student, I
would highly recommend it to parents for their struggling
teenage girls. The effect it had on my life was very
dramatic and completely positive. Not only do they give
Spiritual aid, but they also help teach and encourage these
girls to be responsible, productive citizens. I would say
that if a girl goes through their program, comes out, and
goes down hill Spiritually or in society, it is not a
result of what she experienced at Hephzibah House. I
fervently hope that, should I ever have daughters who need
such a place as this, Hephzibah’s doors would still be
open.
I wanted
to take a moment to reflect on my time at Hephzibah House.
I stayed at the Girls Home for about 2 years and I would
definitely say those years were the best times of my
teenage years. I can state truthfully that I was never hit,
spanked or abused during those years.
It
is a home where girls go who need structure and
individualized attention in their lives. We had daily
routines for school, outside activities, chores,
entertainment and sleep. There was always someone there if
we were sad or troubled about anything. They never took
away food from us. They never forced girls to over eat, in
fact we had the choice to go on half or full portion
depending on how much we wanted to eat. We were not
mentally abused in any way.
Some of
my memories from Hephzibah House include weekly evenings
sitting around the fireplace while Naomi Williams (one of
the Pastor’s daughters) read books to the group, Friday
night game and movie nights, Individual birthday parties,
crochet lessons, bi-weekly one on one meetings with Dr.
Williams to talk about any concerns we might
have.
Obviously,
when you have that many teenage girls living under one
roof, there has to be discipline and the only type of
discipline that any of us ever received was demerits. After
receiving more than 15 demerits in one week, which only
happened if someone was refusing to follow rules all
throughout the week, we would be assigned sentences that we
had to write which took time out of our play time. Most
average American homes would have harsher punishments than
that and it is ludicrous for one to say that was
abusive.
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I went to Hephzibah House with a life full of turmoil. I
was constantly running away from home and practicing a very
worldly and ungodly lifestyle. My parents were at a loss to
know how to help me. I had been through counseling at
church and went to youth camp and I was not responding. So
they decided to send me to Hephzibah House.
I was never denied food. On the contrary I remember eating
a lot of food. They made sure that we had three meals a
day. We had ice cream on Fridays and desserts after most
meals. If you had sentences you did not get the desserts
but you had your full meal.
Christmas and Thanksgiving were so much fun. We had a great
meal with the Williams family and would play games with the
staff families. Sure, you missed your own family but they
made the day special. Birthday parties were also a lot of
fun. We were able to plan it with the other girls who had
their birthdays in the same month. We could decorate and
plan the activities. We ordered fast food, cake and ice
cream and/or pop. We were able to have almost anything we
wanted for that day. No one was excluded.
The staff ladies tried to treat each of us girls fairly and
equally. I knew that they loved us and cared for us. But
remember that 16 year old girls do not think that the world
is fair and when they are in trouble the world is out to
get them.
We had chores to do every day. We had to work hard and keep
our “home” clean and orderly. Because of the work ethic
taught at Hephzibah House I now know how to work hard and
keep my own home.
Hephzibah House changed my life for the better. I accepted
the Lord as Saviour and am actively involved in my church.
I do not regret my stay at Hephzibah House.
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I was a student at Hephzibah House
several years ago. Although I wasn't too excited about
being there in the beginning, fortunately, I allowed God to
work in my heart and going to school at Hephzibah became
one of the BEST things that ever happened to me.
At first, I didn't like everything about the school. I
thought the uniforms were completely outdated, and my mom
was a much better cook. If I would have allowed myself, I
could have spent my time there complaining about how they
didn't do things like my parents, home church, or youth
group. But I had to ask myself, "Are the uniforms modest?
Yes. Are they practical. Yes! Are they long lasting? YES!
Is the food nourishing? Yes!" If we didn't finish our food
from dinner, might we have it for breakfast? Yes, but that
was not cruel, it was simply teaching us not to be
wasteful.
As a student there, I remember
LOTS of fun times. There was the monthly birthday party
that WE got to plan, an occasional video night, volleyball
games, playing in the snow and making igloos, jump rope,
going out to eat at an Amish restaurant, singing around the
campfire while roasting marshmallows and drinking hot
cocoa, and my personal favorite -- listening to Dr.
Williams give devotions. He is the best storyteller I've
ever heard. I loved to watch his facial expressions and try
to make sense of his huge vocabulary. I always wished that
he didn't have to travel so much so that he could do
devotions more often.
Also, I knew that ALL the staff there truly cared about me
and just wanted to see me respect my parents and grow to
love and serve God. There was even one staff lady that went
around to our beds at night and asked us if we had a
special prayer request. Sometimes I would prop myself up a
little and watch her pray beside her bed for us girls. At
times she would pray for up to forty-five minutes. How do I
know that she prayed for us girls? I could read her lips
from the light that came in through the hallway.
It was staff
like her that helped me realize my need for salvation, and
know that there was a God who cared about me and loved me
even though I had done nothing to deserve His
love.
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I am going to start out by saying, cancer and bitterness
are very similar, as is their treatment, as is their
outcome if not successful in treatment. Bitterness is a
cancer of the soul.
Today I am serving the Lord. This was not always so. At the
age of 17, I started to rebel against everything that my
parents had taught me since I was a small child. I was
bitter, proud, bent on self-destruction, and I would not
admit it. I became hardhearted and stubborn. This led to
poor judgement and loss of moral conduct. I was headed 100
miles an hour in the wrong direction, while my heartbroken
parents were wondering what on earth they could do to spare
me the many, many scars that life can bring. I would not
heed their pleadings. They were losing their daughter and
they knew it!
Their only hope came in the form of a ministry for young
ladies called Hephzibah House.
Shortly after I turned 17, my parents took me to meet
Pastor Ron Williams and his wonderful staff. I quickly
realized this was to be my new home for a while.
Many of the ways I was accustomed to were changed. This, I
learned was for my well being. The concentrated method of
healing in this case was crucial. Having the distractions
of the world and the pressures in it removed, I could then
and only then, focus on what was needed to start my
healing.
Hephzibah’s staff is well-equipped with Godly, loving men
and women who have the utmost respect for all the young
ladies who come into this ministry, some of whom have gone
through the program themselves. None of whom, have ever
abused a young lady, in or out of Hephzibah’s care. And
more importantly, neither I or anyone else while I was
there was abused!!
A very structured program and lots of soul cleansing, along
with Bible Scripture memorization and character building
opportunities help change the will of the bitter soul bent
on destruction. Those who fail to accept the help given
often become even more bitter and carry this bitterness
with them when they leave.
I came home after completing the program, received my
General Diploma, and was very grateful to all the staff who
had a part in my healing. My very life depended on this
ministry. God saw fit to give me another chance for a
successful Christian life and maybe even life itself. God
only knows what would have become of me if I had not gone.
I would not have seen my desperate condition if Hephzibah
House had not taken the things that of the world out from
in front of it. I needed that, and so do the many young
women who are just like I was... full of bitterness.
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As a young
girl, I had let my mind be filled with the word’s ways.
When I was eleven years old, I started rebelling against my
parents more than ever. I had wrong friends, listened to
wrong music, and I got involved with a guy. I did things
behind my Dad’s back. I lied to my Dad all the time - I
would say “I’m going to call my girlfriends,” but instead I
would call the guy that I wanted to be with. We would sneak
out after it was dark and come home before anyone woke up.
We did this for a few years.
Soon after all this started happening, I was sent to
Hephzibah House. I hated it so bad. My mind was made up
that this place was not going to change me at all. I was
waiting and waiting for the day till I got out. I hated the
rules, and most of all I hated that they would always talk
to you about salvation. I got so tired of them talking to
me about it, so I decided to make a profession so they
would stop talking about it. I made a few professions, but
they knew it wasn’t real.
For all the time I was at Hephzibah, I just did the rules
so I wouldn’t get in trouble. Although I wasn’t very
rebellious on the outside, I was very rebellious on the
inside.
The week that I was to go home, Pastor Halyaman talked to
me twice, and Dr. Williams talked to me once. They wanted
to see me happy and live for the Lord. In my mind, I was
thinking they were wasting their time talking to me, but
their time was not wasted. I kept thinking of what the
pastors told me that week. I knew I didn’t want to go to
Hell, and I didn’t want to go home the same way as I went
to Hephzibah House. I asked the Lord to save me from my
sins, and He did. It hasn’t always been easy for me, but I
know that God is always by my side, and in trouble I can go
to Him. Life begins at Calvary.